Maybe my actions, or interactions of late are exactly the kind of thing that my fellow bloggers hate... I have had three meetings with three guys in one week.
The first was on a Saturday. I got a text out of the blue, asking what I was doing later that night. "Mike" is a guy who I had been talking with and texting for a few weeks. He is a nice guy... He texts often, but mostly simple questions.
Besides, how can you really get to know a person through texting? So... Mike texted, asked me what I was doing and I let him know my availability. He asked if I wanted to get together around 9pm, since I already had dinner plans. I accepted and asked him what he would like to do....
He said that he would like to go to a movie. I was surprised. Dinner and a movie is great fun, but doesn't really seem appropriate when we have never before met face to face.
We got to the theatre and the movie time had been pushed back a half hour. This was good because it gave us a few minutes to sit and talk and find a little about each other. Sherlock Holmes started and the movie was pretty entertaining. Part way through the movie, Mike put his hand on my leg. the back of his hand... He was not so subtly asking to hold my hand.... I thought "first date?" "Are you serious?" "Who are you?" "Are you a guy who is only interested in the physical?" I looked at him and he smiled.
I figured that holding his hand couldn't hurt, and gave in. A little later during the movie he took out his phone and listened to a voicemail. Then he left the theatre to make a call. He was gone about 10 minutes. so strange! When he returned he asked if I was mad. I said "No." I wasn't mad. I guess because I was not emotionally invested in him at all, and also because it is his own choice to pay for the movie and then watch it or not.
After the movie, I said goodbye and that maybe we could meet again sometime. We hugged and he walked away. I was a little frustrated that he didn't have the courtesy to walk me to my vehicle, but oh well. Before I made it home, he texted me, asking "Do you really want to see me again?"... I told him that I didn't really know him, and that a movie isn't really conducive to learning about someone. We texted a couple of times after that, but I haven't heard from him in a while.
The Following Friday, I made plans to meet another guy from Match. "Ed" and I had exchanged several emails and a phone call or two. I felt that I knew him a lot better than Mike. He offered to drive half way to Boulder to meet, and we decided to meet at 7.
The day of my date I got a text from another friend. "Tony" is a guy I have knows for quite sometime. I haven't seen him in a number of years, as one or the other is always out of town. He let me know that he was at a happy hour near my work. i agreed to meet him for a drink or two, until my other plans required me to leave.
I knew that there was chemistry between us, but wasn't sure what it would be like to see him again. I knew he would be at the pub with several friends, so I wasn't expecting much in the way of Romance.
I got to the bar and found him easily. As soon as I sat down next to him we began talking, talking, talking. We talked about a bunch of things, and I noticed that he was completely ignoring his other friends! Before long I had to leave, and it was not a fun thought. Most of me just wanted to stay and hang with Tony. Tony was nice enough to walk me out the door of the bar, and gave me a great hug.
So I sped off time my time with Tony to go meet Ed. We met and had a nice time. We had a couple of good drinks while waiting for a table, and eventually sat down. We ordered guacamole that was made just for us and had a great meal. There was lots to talk about, and I enjoyed myself. It wasn't late, but we were both tired, so we called it an evening. Ed walked me to my car and made sure that I got in and it started. I waved goodbye and haven't heard from him since.
So, three up and at least two down.
None of these meetings were bad, but I don't know how much chemistry I feel for them.
Navigating the world of online dating is confusing! Who to talk to? Who to meet? Who to meet again??
I look forward to the days when this hunt is over, and I can just be committed to one person!
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I identify with this post a lot Passports. It feels like there is a lot going on, but at the same time, nothing. There seems to be so much unwritten and unverbalized communication that goes on on these dates which, for me, is completely mystifying. Why cant people just be more open. And, perhaps call and say, "hey, I had a great time etc, but I dont see this going anywhere, so I just wanted to close the loop and wish you luck on your search".... What is so hard about that (especially if it was just one date)??? I mean, really. Honestly, the only thing I have figured out is the "look-back". If after the drop-off or parting of ways, he looks back, then you're money. If he doesnt look back, then he wont call. I've found I have a 90% return on look backs and a 0% return on non-look backs. I'm curious if anyone else has figured out any little insights/observations how this non-communication communication works??
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Hmmm... this might be a great post on its own...
ReplyDeletebut maybe my look-backs are low. or Nil. Maybe.